Tis the season to be scammed; although, it can be done anytime of the year; it’s worse right around the holidays. It doesn’t matter what social media you are on and it doesn’t matter what platform you are on for matchmaking much less what platform you use online; don’t fall to be a victim of a scammer. The Internet can be used for good or bad, but don’t allow others to make you feel bad for them especially when you don’t know them. It is one thing to donate money to worthy causes or help others you don’t know, but you need to do it on your terms & feel good about your decision with it not on someone else’s terms.
Scammers will tell you are handsome or beautiful and say they love you. Anyone can fall prey to them; there is no distinction with it. They make you feel their urgency and they make you feel rushed to help them (always a timing issue with them). They act like they know you when they don’t. They will make you believe whatever they want you to believe. There are different scammers, but the main reason for the scam is for money. They will use every reason in the book why they cannot access their bank account and use any reason to say why they need money. They don’t care what kind of financial situation you are in, so if you are struggling they will say that if you help them, they will help you. They will not make compromises with you fully and they will not answer your questions; they will only answer what they think is necessary to tell you. Believe me, they don’t care about you; all they care about is what they need and they show how selfish they are by their motives. All they want is money. They use, abuse, manipulate, and love the control they can have over another person.
I have a few tips that will help protect you. I have had to take these precautions due to being a victim and falling prey to being scammed, so I do speak from experience. It is a major reason with being single (again) why I do not look for relationships online anymore. It’s one of the reasons why I want to take a self defense class and learn to shoot a gun (even though I don’t like guns), and why I remember the SING scene from the movie Miss Congeniality (one of my favorite Sandra Bullock movies).
On my Facebook Intro, it says: “READ: I must know you personally or we must have many mutual friends for me to accept friend request.”
This doesn’t always sway others to contact me, but it does let me know whether someone has read that. By adding that, I don’t get as nearly as many messages or friend’s requests like I did. I still have to delete friend’s requests and messages when I see it’s from people I do not know. And sometimes I have to block others. It’s called protecting and defending myself and you can do the same thing.
Most social media sites allow you to set your settings to private and who is allowed to contact you. Look at all your settings when it comes to social media and do what you have to in order to protect yourself.
Please do not accept friend’s requests from people you do not know, and do not leave your account open or public.
When someone sends you a friend request always check out someone’s page or profile. If they don’t have much information, anything on their account looks to be contradictory (or doesn’t add up) or looks like it is a new account, then remove the friend request.
Please do not talk to someone you don’t know on messaging programs. When someone you know don’t know messages you, don’t open the message. You can delete the message without reading it. If the person, continues to message you can report and block them. I realize many businesses use messaging programs and it’s OK to message them as long as it is a legit business.
Don’t tell others what you don’t want them to know. And don’t put anything on your social media you don’t want others to know. Think before you post and think before you react and respond to someone. There is nothing wrong in being private with information and nothing wrong with keeping certain information safe. It’s one thing to be honest, but it’s not like others need to know everything about your life, so use your judgment and discernment wisely.
If needed get off all social media platforms you are on, it is not something you have to be on or at least limit it to the one you like the most.
I highly recommend the book “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin DeBecker. This book will open your eyes and make you trust your intuition more.
More than anything trust your instincts, intuition, and feelings when it comes to everything; they are there to protect you. People don’t listen to their gut enough. Even that faint gnawing feeling you get, listen to it!
Please take precautions and do whatever it takes to protect you.